Deciding Where to Live As You Approach Retirement: Important to Have a Plan in Place

Deciding Where to Live As You Approach Retirement: Important to Have a Plan in Place

By Cathy DeAngelo


What with the Baby Boomer generation aging, more people than ever are reconsidering many factors in their lifestyle ... and one of the most important is deciding where to live. We all age and deciding whether and/or where to move when it’s time to downsize is a process that requires thought and planning. Finding the right retirement community/next step is about asking the right questions. That process starts with a careful consideration of your individual needs and desires. While this exercise can present its challenges, it can also be exciting to imagine a new phase of life that isn’t dictated by a work schedule and an alarm clock.

The best time to begin planning and discuss with your spouse and/or family members is while you’re still working. It takes time to figure out where you’ll want to be. There are many options out there. The more you learn about what’s available and what each has to offer, the easier your decision will be. You don’t want to be pressed to make a choice when you unexpectedly have a need.

For starters, the following are 10 questions to consider:


  1. What kind of retirement lifestyle do I envision?
  2. What is my budget?
  3. What is my current health status?
  4. What do I want to continue to do/what do I not want to do?
  5. What will I not be able to do?
  6. What kinds of activities interest me?
  7. Where do I want to be-- near family, in my familiar community?  City, country, suburbs?
  8. What kind of people do I want to be with?
  9. What amenities would I like?
  10. How much space do I need? 


It’s important to be realistic with your answers. For example, if you have health issues now, it’s highly likely that you’re going to have more in 10 years. You have to be honest about the barriers to things you want to do now, and how will you manage those challenges later in life.  Look around the house and ask what do I want ... and what can I do without? It’s also important to remember that most of us need people to thrive. And not just those to assist us with things we’re no longer able to do, but to engage our interests and be our friends and companions. Having more time to do the things you like and enjoy the company of old and new friends and family is a wonderful gift. 

If you’re considering buying a retirement home, look beyond the real estate to the services that come with it or are nearby, as these services will be important down the road. For example, a  55-plus community that suits your lifestyle at age 60 or 65 may not have the services to support you after age 75 or 80. You want to have access to a range of activities, various transportation options, shopping, nearby health services, and have other support systems in place.

The best retirement plan takes into consideration each individual’s specific needs and preferences. Considering these factors ahead of time will make the decision that much less overwhelming. Take the step ... and create that plan!


Cathy DeAngelo is the Director of Sales and Marketing at Jefferson's Ferry Lifecare Retirement Community in South Setauket, Long Island.

Can Love and Opposite Politics Coexist?

Can Love and Opposite Politics Coexist?


My friend Catherine is in love again. “He is perfect’ she muses. “We practically agree on everything. He likes hiking, loves ethnic food, movies, just about everything I like, except his politics. Actually, we are considering moving in together. ”

”Really?” I ask. “Can a lifelong liberal like you and a conservative make good bedfellows?”

“I don’t know,” she replies. “What I do know is that sex is great, and so far we haven’t had any political discussions in the bedroom or out. However, he is a true conservative, and you know what I think of them! I don’t understand these people!”

Adamant statements expressed in such an absolute and fierce manner are often red flags. Catherine has been married twice before. She’s never been shy presenting her viewpoint. Possibly her rigid belief system may have caused her breakups. It is well known that politics is the one subject that triggers unusually fierce disagreements when partners are on opposite sides. Totally reasonable and mostly caring, they suddenly act like warriors from different armies defending their party line.

Is there a way that politically opposed couples can avoid skirmishes from becoming major political battles? The answer goes way beyond politics. It is a core issue in every relationship; finding common ground.

Politics like other sensitive relationship subjects such as money or religion may challenge or derail a harmonious life together if not discussed and resolved in an open and mature discussion. At this juncture the question partners have to ask; how important is the political subject that pushes each to the brink? Is it really a stay or leave matter? Are the issues that divide them more important than seeking to rescue the relationship?

Can they own up to recognizing their part in sabotaging the relationship, and find a way to move forward? For Catherine, can she explain her political preference in a civil way that Kent can understand and consider? Can Kent participate in an authentic, caring discussion rather than withdrawing into his man cave where he feels safe?  If they reach a state of crisis, can they recognize what ails the relationship is a lack of understanding of each other’s fundamental positions regarding politics or other important issues? Are they willing to hear each other’s grievances and needs rather than rebutting?

The revelations each partner is willing to share at this point may create a feeling of intimacy and sympathy. Loving someone with opposite political or other views doesn’t mean there is no happy ending. It comes down to working out a solution that both can live with. Agreeing to avoid certain incendiary subjects such as politics, works quite well for many and may be the right solution. — Jacqui

Almost 600 New York State-wide Submissions to Art at 50 Plus Virtual Art Exhibition at the Islip Art Museum


The Islip Art Council and Islip Art Museum, AARP-sponsored Art at 50 Plus NEW BEGINNINGS exhibition has taken virtual exhibits to new heights and achieves an intimacy beyond expectation. Enjoy the show. You may find yourself saying that it is way better than you imagined!


Creating this virtual exhibit was a trail-blazing event for all involved. The nearly 600 artists who submitted their work to be part of this event are to be commended for embracing the challenges of technology. 


Curating an exhibition is a complex task and a work of art unto itself. Individual pieces must relate and be woven into a visually cohesive entity. The work selected needed to encompass New York State and the ages 50-90+ as well as cover all levels of artistry from beginners to life-long artists… and then videographer Waldo Cabrera used his artistry to create the video that will be viewable starting September 15, 2020. 


These are the one hundred artists whose work and statements were selected: (in the order of their appearance)


Mary C Roth

Karen Woodin

Randy Broznan

Neva Sedlow

Dan Welden

Lynn Marripodi

Ben Cross

Jennifer Campbell

Regina Silvers

Richard Sigmund

Jeanmarie Donahue

Adel Gorgy

Paul Bouchard

Victoria Beckert

Kathleen McArdle

Linda Fix

Frank Sabatte

Alan Richards

Norma Greenwood

Andrea Strongwater

Isablle Garbani

Bill Kuchler

Jim Sabiston

Tami Elise

Andrea Bourgeouis

Keith Rossein

Jacqueline Fiore

Doris Rubinic

Veronica Schielman

Alli Berman

Jan Guarino

Judy Kreitzer

Ellen DiFazio

Lynne Lederman

Patricia Hodder

Carolyn Oberst

Ray Grist

Janet McLaughlin

Douglas Newton

Edison Mejia

Catherine Minnery

Marjorie Ehrenreich

Karen L.  Kirshner

Lynn Ubell

A H Gunther

Ron Becker

Louise P. Sloane

Estelle Bassin

Julia Scully

Elaine Forrest

Beth Barry

Olga Alexander

Greg Brown

Bernice Sokol Kramer

Annette Jaret

Callie Hirsch

Carol Prehoda

Vichai Chinalai

Rita Rovery

Terry Elkins

Marsha Solomon

Corinne Michels

Kat O’Brien & Sylvie Gauthier

Paul Wortman

Joyce Kanyuk

Matthew Turov

Emily Barnett

Manuel Macarrulla

Susan Schwalb

Don Weber 

Christine Greene

La Veda Davis

Ed Vega

Victoria Smith

Lori Horowitz

Michael Flaherty

Gary Finelli

Amy Wagner 

Stephanie Brody-Lederman

Renee DeFilippis

Lisa Zilker

Janet Morgan

Jaynie Gilman Crimmins

JoAnn Bishop

Matthias Kern

Nina Thorne

Soralee Cook

Dr. Robert Irwin Wolf

Illyan Ivanov

Minoo Moadel

Deborah Katz

Lisa Petker Mintz

Linda Bice

Amelia Melnick

Mary Ahern

Orna Behm

Nancy Vassilakis

Susan Tiffin

Joyce Bressler

S. A. M. Shrestha

LuAnn Palazzo

   Neill Slaughter 

   Fran Beallor

   Laura Gurton

   Ward Hooper


The New Beginnings Virtual Exhibition will be ready for viewing September 15, 2020 on the Islip Art Museum website


The Sip and See ZOOM Reception October 4, 2020 from 2-pm

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The closing Zoom reception November 7th

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In addition to the video that can be viewed on the Islip Art Museum website there will also be a gallery to view the New Beginnings exhibit along with each artist’s contact information.



Age of Elegance — IT'S STAR TIME!

Age of Elegance, June 2019




The 34th annual Pageant will be held at the Madison Theater, Molloy College, Rockville Centre, on Sunday, July 14, 2019, at 2:30 p.m. Some of the most interesting, attractive, outstanding women will be competing for the coveted crown of Ms. New York Senior America 2019.

Each one of these 60-plus ladies is very special in her own way and every one of them is qualified to wear the crown and represent the State of New York. Come and see their poise, talent and personality, as well as their philosophy of life and other accomplishments. The pageant is the one place to showcase women over 60 at their very best. Being part of the pageant is a lifetime passport to a charmed circle of senior women. It is the gateway to a new and rewarding beginning. The Pageant will be most entertaining and surely you won't want to miss it.


Tickets are on sale now. Call the Madison Theater at 516-323-4444. Price of tickets: $25; Group Price (10 or more): $20; Veterans Discount: $15.00. An early reservation is recommended.


We wish to thank our loyal supporters for their generosity in helping us carry out our mission. New York Senior America is committed to devoting our time, passion and positivity to seniors and their needs. We help seniors find joy and purpose to live a more fulfilling life. We share gratification knowing we spread joy and inspiration to others.

We are Seniors, We Care about Seniors, We Help Seniors.


"Aim for the Moon...even if you'll land among the Stars!!"


Till next time,

Joan and Marleen



New Cookbook Provides Delicious Meals Quickly and Easily with One Pot, One Pan

New Cookbook Provides Delicious Meals Quickly and Easily with One Pot, One Pan



Who doesn’t love good food and great meals?  But who wants to spend a lot of time in the kitchen preparing it? For cooks who don't have much time but do want delicious homemade food Devorah Kahan and Rachel Moskowitz have created just the cookbook. Super Simple, Easy and Delicious Recipes for Beginners, Balabustas and Everyone in Between (Israel Bookshop Publications, 2019; Hardcover; $17.95; ISBN-13: 978-1600917066) is filled with many tried-and-true recipes that anyone, at any age or stage in life, can whip up easily. The recipes in One Pot, One Pan are kosher and range from soups and salads; meat, dairy and pasta mains to delicious side dishes; desserts; and snacks and drinks.

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